For my final blog
post, I am taking a serious tone. Cyberbullying is something which terrifies,
angers and saddens me. The saying "sticks and stones will break my bones,
but names will never hurt me" has never rung less true.
Cyberbullying" is
when a child, preteen or teen is tormented, threatened, harassed, humiliated,
embarrassed or otherwise targeted by another child, preteen or teen using the
Internet, interactive and digital technologies or mobile phones (stopcyberbullying.org)
Had I grown up a few
years later, I would have been a target. I got bullied at an
all girls school - girls are twice as likely to be bullied
(dosomething.org).
My room was my safe
haven, as it should be. I only discovered MSN (messaging) when I was in year
twelve, and I didn't own a mobile phone until then. Now, over 80% of
teens own a mobile, and it is the most common medium for cyber bullying
(dosomething.org).
What if you cannot
escape this - what if it torments you, morning, noon and
night?
· abusive texts and emails
· hurtful messages, images or videos
· imitating others online to set them
up
· excluding others online
· nasty online gossip and chat
(cybersmart, 2014)
Cyberbullying allows the bully to be anonymous. 81% of young people think bullying online is easier to get away with than bullying in person (dosomething.org)
Cyberbullying allows the bully to be anonymous. 81% of young people think bullying online is easier to get away with than bullying in person (dosomething.org)
Looking back,
Rheingolds theory on collaboration and social media (much like the end of the
video, below) , now seems misplaced; "it could produce a more thoughtful
society: countless small acts like publishing a Web page or sharing a link
could add up to a public good that enriches everybody.'' (Rheingold, 2012)
There are so many theories as to what makes a cyberbully that even experts often misunderstand cyberbullying.(Wiredsafety.org)
1. victims of real
word bullying, and go online and bully others to feel powerful.
2. bullies offline,
extending their sphere of influence and power to the online world.
3. Other cyber bullies
just want to show that they can do certain things online to show off.
Bullying victims
are 2 to 9 times more likely to consider committing suicide (dosomething.org).
I believe the internet
has desensitised young people to human suffering and bullying because it
is in front of our faces every day, every minute, every second,
online.(kidsafefoundation,org) It is essential that adults acknowledge, understand
and accept the Internet and communication technology as a viable and real means
of relating for young people, to provide guidance and protection (Mishna F,
Saini M & Solomon S, 2009)
Olivia Penpraze committed suicide in 2012 after years of bullying. Reaching out via social media, her parents had no idea. (see below videos)
Parents need to keep up with social media technologies to better understand their kids, and what they are going through.
So many
campaigns, advice, and websites - yet still no answer...
References:
- Bullyingstatistics.org, 2013, 'Cyber
Bullying & Social Bullying', Accessed 8th February 2014, http://www.bullyingstatistics.org/content/cyber-bullying.html
- Cybersmart, 2014, 'How do I deal with
Cyberbullying?', Commonwealth of Australia, Accessed 8th February 2014, http://www.cybersmart.gov.au/teens/how%20do%20I%20deal%20with/cyberbullying.aspx
- Dosomething.org, 2014, '11 facts about
cyberbullying', Accessed 8th February 2014, http://www.dosomething.org/tipsandtools/11-facts-about-cyber-bullying
- End to cyber bullying 2013, 'Delete cyber
bullying', 20 January, viewed 8th February 2014 <http://youtu.be/bfT2qqrqzgo>
- Kidsafefoundation,2013, [website], 'Are
children becoming desensitised to human
suffering?' Accessed 8th February 2014, http://www.kidsafefoundation.org/are-children-becoming-desensitized-to-human-suffering/
- Mishna F, Saini M & Solomon S
2009, 'Ongoing and online: children and youth's perceptions of cyber
bullying', Children and Youth Services Review, vol. 31, issue 12, pp.
1222-1228, <http://www.sciencedirect.com.ezproxy.lib.swin.edu.au/science/article/pii/S0190740909001200>.
- Olivia Liv Penpraze tells her story, 2012,
[video] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RzjFf8ywk3c
- Rheingold H, 2012, Netsmart, accessed 14th
January2014 http://rheingold.com/books/net-smart/
- Sunrise, 2012, 'Cyber Bullying tragedy',
[video] accessed 8th Ferbruary 2014, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C7eojUV3n7Q
- Wiredsafety.org, 2014, Stopcyberbullying,[Website],
Accessed 8th February
2014, http://stopcyberbullying.org/what_is_cyberbullying_exactly.html